Is there sex after children?

Well, if you have more than one child, obviously there is sex after children. But how many of us can put our hands up when asked if our romantic relationships with our spouses have changed after having children. Yes, I think we all have our hands up there!

This photo was taken in the Summer of 2007, before Little Miss was even out of the ovary! Hubby and I staged this photo…of course, but this sort of thing used to happen a LOT more often prior to the arrival of Little Miss.

Our lives are richer and happier for her (and for our latest brewing creation) but we certainly were different individuals in the days before baby. I bring you my BritMums video blog about whether there is Sex After Kids…you tell me! I’d love to hear your secrets for keeping the home fires burning. Let’s keep it clean though, people. This is a family blog after all!

10 thoughts on “Is there sex after children?

  • 24/05/2011 at 9:54 am

    I think part of it is actually about getting started because let’s face it, most of us enjoy it once we get down to it! Also I think it’s a case of once you get back in the swing of things you want to do it more – that said I definitely need to make more effort – just need to get Beanie Boy to sleep through the night so we’re not so tired!

  • 24/05/2011 at 7:19 pm

    Hi Karin, Love it. I did the same post recently… just form a slightly more *anatomical* point of view! :)

  • 24/05/2011 at 8:10 pm

    Keep it OUT of the bedroom. If you’re anything like me, when you get to bed, all you want to do is SLEEP. I know that’s all that’s on my mind these days when I get to bed…SOOOOO, keeping it out of the bedroom means that there isn’t the ‘tired’ pressure and feeling like you ‘have’ to.

    Try it. It works for us! 😀 xx

  • 24/05/2011 at 8:17 pm

    Another cracking vlog Karin – your little written comments always have me chuckling.

    I definitely agree with Beth on the whole bedroom thing, as soon as I step foot in my bed I want to snooze! I seem permanently knackered at the moment even though MC is sleeping through.

    Things do change though after having kids and I hold my hands up that sometimes sex can be a little perfunctory.

    I do find some sexy undies help the mood too…a trip to Anne Summers on the cards 😉 Although I’m loving your grey sleep dress 😉

  • 24/05/2011 at 8:18 pm

    Oh and I’ve figured out how I can watch your vlogs – on my iPhone believe it or not. If I use the mac they stall loads but the phone works fine! Very strange.

  • 24/05/2011 at 8:49 pm

    Ha ha ha, brilliant vlog – particularly the written aside notes :-) Our daughter is only 13 weeks old so we’re still navigating our way through the fog of the early months but on the weekend we sat down together and had a proper meal, not in front of the TV, and talked about how we could start to reconnect again as a couple and not just think of ourselves as mum and dad and talk about baby stuff exclusively! We are making an effort to have dinner together at the table more often than not, which means we talk more, we’re trying to go to bed earlier so we aren’t completely worn out, and we’re just making an effort to be kind to each other generally. It’s already feeling like we’re reconnecting, which is great, as I think we lost each other for a bit while we adjusted to our new lives with our darling little one.

  • 25/05/2011 at 11:06 am

    Excellent vlog – loved it. It’s the first one of yours I’ve watched so I simply HAVE to do the whole cheesy ‘I just LOOOOOVE your accent, dahling!’. I could listen to it all day :)

    This vlog is so funny and so true. And the written comments and demo of what (not) to wear in bed is brialliant. I think we’re all guilt of that one on occasion!!

    My OH and I try to have date nights, but it usually ends in lots of cuddling and not sex (boooo!!) so we try to be as spontaneous as possible. HAs Babyzoid gone for a nap? Great! Race you upstairs! We have to renew our efforts every now and then as we’ve had a hectic few years, but remembering why you came together and what you find attractive in each other is a great tip xXx

  • 25/05/2011 at 5:46 pm

    Looking forward to watching this video but will have to come back to it when my mum’s not around. I know I’m having a baby, therefore it’s obvious I’ve had sex but our relationship is not ready for this discussion! I’m definitely intrigued, especially with all the comments here.

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