Happy Father’s Day, My Love

Jun 20, 2009 by cafebebemama

Happy 2nd Father’s Day My Love!

My husband has come such a very long way as his 2nd Father’s Day approaches. Last year at this time we had a 17-day old daughter who baffled us both. I had more experience going into parenthood after years of babysitting and that blasted MATERNAL instinct that seems to kick in the minute your Little Miss or Little Mister enters the world. But what experience had my hubby had? Well, the odd nappy change as “Uncle Extraordinaire” and being the most fun, exciting and cool uncle ever. Doesn’t exactly prepare you for handling a tiny, wriggling, howling, helpless newborn does it? After a few tips on how to change a nappy my husband dove in headfirst (not to the nappy mind you) and changed his fair share of pooey nappies (despite a rather strong gag reflex) which was more than appreciated. And what a clever clogs my husband was with feeding. As I was struggling, and failing, mightily in hospital to try to breastfeed, my husband was trawling the shelves of the nearest Boots to get formula, bottles and accessories that we didn’t have as we hadn’t thought it would be that difficult. He was fishing around the racks for properly sized sleepsuits for our Little Miss as what I had brought to hospital was WAYYYYY too big. He held me when I cried, he cuddled our daughter and made me feel stronger than I was because he loved me. He never complained a bit about the lack of attention to him and reveled in that amazing feeling of having your child fall asleep on your chest.

I’ll never forget one morning when I had Little Miss in bed with us and I was struggling to settle her on my chest and my hubby told me, “You have to pat her on her back like this” (and showed me) and when I tried he said “No a little faster” and you know what??? He was right! And to this day, Little Miss still loves to be patted on her back when being rocked to sleep (I know…I’m not supposed to do that!)- Daddy was right then and is still right today.

My husband has really settled into his Daddy role and as Little Miss has become more and more of a PROPER person, he has become the light of her life. She is such a Daddy’s Girl! Granted, there are times when Mummy is the only one to comfort her which breaks Daddy’s heart, but more and more often, Little Miss only wants her Daddy. He teaches her things that I can’t. Within one weekend he taught Little Miss to stand up without assistance and another weekend he introduced eating with a fork!

My husband is an amazing father and an even better husband and I don’t tell him often enough. One of the most selfless and thoughtful things that my husband has done was to allow me to give up working to stay home with our daughter. We are struggling financially and I know my husband is stressed and finds it difficult to enjoy his job. Occasionally, he comes home too late to see Little Miss before she’s gone to sleep and this wrecks him. But he has readily made this sacrifice so that we can do the best thing for Little Miss. He now goes without so that his daughter can have the world.

When I met my husband four years ago, I never would have imagined that a little girl would change him so. He adores her and she adores him. My hubby gets up with Little Miss during the week at ridiculous o’clock so he’s guaranteed quality time with her. I listen to them for a bit before I drift back off to a half an hour’s more sleep…what a happy sound! I can hardly remember what our life was like before Little Miss. There are some things we miss and I don’t think even the best parent in the world would say they didn’t, but my husband is so enamoured with his amazing daughter, that all we think of now is our life after Little Miss. So, thank you Sweetie, for giving me the life I always dreamed of, for being a phenominal father and for being my partner in love and life. Little Miss and I think you’re the BEST DADDY IN THE WHOLE WIDE WORLD!